Forgive..atleast Forget

dil ki baat...

there is something about old times....something sticky.. We cannot let go..we do not want to let go...

 we are criticizing days long gone..people we never saw again..and places we never visited again..
 but for the one wrong that was done to us..we become ever unforgiving... people .. places ..ideas.. cultures..even business transactions ..all become stereotyped in to a single mould...BAD...

Irrespective of all the good things that may have occurred to us,, the beautiful conversations we may have had..times that may have flown like a sweet smelling breeze... and so many moments of pleasure and togetherness that we may have spent together..It all vanishes in that one moment.. when our expectations aren't met..or there is a sudden change of tide.. or  a close someone becomes a catalyst to a worse change of fortune...
And we decide.. never to talk to that person again.. never again to look at his face... never to visit a particular place.. or even things like not carrying out auspicious tasks on particular dates....

Do we ever stop to ponder what actually went wrong??
Someone we tend to so vehemently criticize may actually not be guilty.. it may be just the tide that went against us..may be it was a consequence of trying to avert a greater loss...or may be it was just a one time lapse... just for once a conscience was taken over by greed..or an utmost compelling need...

We almost always never try to find out....
and in this way,, friends are lost... we feel cheated...
deceit seems like the order of the world... It also adversely affects our ability to have faith of someone
..rather anyone
making new friends becomes an uphill task... getting in to conversations with unknown people is rarer...and there starts the process of a complete loss of faith..everyone..everything similar gets stereotyped....

Very soon we have a shell around us..
We think its a cocoon ...it will shield us from whatever that is ugly and bad.. it will keep away things that can potentially harm us.. and help us avoid people.. who will break us down.. or just turn out to be totally disappointing.....
But actually this shell stops new light from coming in..it doesn't let us make new friends.. get in to new relationships...at times take up a new job or even visit new places..
It develops fear inside us.. fear of betrayal and rejection...
fear to get cheated Again....

This is for a friend...
May the new year bring new light in our lives...
The past be remembered for good...
The future pregnant with beautiful possibilities...
Amen!!